From a post at Glenn Sacks' blog...
Usually I find the posts there interesting, if somewhat milquetoast at times. Imagine my surprise at seeing Feminist dogma taken as moral imperative....
If dad earns $70,000 a year and mom earns $67,000 a year, it's definitely the solution. But what if dad earns $120,000 and mom, because she was the children's primary caregiver during the marriage, earns only $30,000?
In this case it would neither be fair to the woman nor productive for the children for there to be no financial support from the father to the mother. In effect, the mother is being punished because she diminished her earning capacity to be the children's primary caregiver. Also, her ability to care for her kids and provide for them when they're with her is compromised.
First of all, I was a stay home Dad in my children's early years, and my ex continues to make substantially more than me to this day. I had 50/50 custody of my kids, and lost them because I couldn't afford to keep them anymore.
Where was the need to be fair to me, or productive to my children? No one, not even once, no one ever suggested I should be getting money from her, or offered gov't services. Not even me.
The assertion that he would somehow owe her for supporting her for those years is totally disgusting, when used as a generality. There are certain instances (such as him leaving her for selfish reasons) where some sort of compensation for breach of contract (which goes BOTH ways) may be in order...
But as a default stance? No freakin' way!
If she doesn't make as much as him, and hates the disparity...well, then I guess they should have stayed together eh? As for the kids, frankly an education on how the "other half lives" would likely prove beneficial.
The whole argument is essentially paraphrased feminist dogma.
She is NOT "giving up her earning capacity for him", she IS doing what she would rather do, or as close to it as possible. Staying home with children is a LUXURY these days, not a sacrifice...the idea that it should be compensated for after Divorce is anathema to the very concept of sexual equality.
She can work hard, and get ahead...just like he did.