Recently in a debate, the argument was put forward that MRA's want to put women "barefoot and pregnant, back in the kitchen" or some such nonsense. At which point the woman then pointed out a new double-bind that is beginning to take form...only this time, it is women who are going to "enjoy" it.
Namely, MRA's don't generally want a "traditional" wife, nor do we want a "co-husband" to make each day extra challenging! This person asked, essentially, "if you don't want this, and you don't want that, what the hell are women supposed to be?" Her inference was that MRAs are being unreasonable and therefore our concerns had no validity.
This argument is showing up more and more, as women begin to come to terms with the fact that the party's over...the sleeping giant has awakened...and he's out of Folgers.
Women's behaviour is coming under increasing scrutiny, and time and again it is found wanting...although this is itself often minimized at the same time as it's talked about. Men's issues are becoming more mainstream and people are beginning to ask why the double standards, and beginning to say things like "yeah yeah, rape is bad...now, are you going to answer my question?"
And they demand to know the new role they're "expected" to fill? The traditional, or the Feminist?
Here's the irony...why the hell should we MRAs care? I mean at all? It's YOUR role, you choose it. If you choose wrong, you're not going to do well. Have fun, let me know how it all works out for you.
Did these people forget about the last 40 years, when men repeatedly asked what they were expected to be? Notice the expectations and actions of women didn't mesh too well? Asking someone else who you should be as a person is a really Bad Idea(tm), I think men's experience with Feminism illustrates that quite nicely.
More to the point, it's not our responsibility as MRAs to decide these things. It's YOUR turn to flounder around figuring out how to avoid criticism, and fulfil the expectations placed on you. YOU figure it out.
It's not our job.