Sigma.

SO, I read a post about 'Sigmas' (which, frankly, I've never heard of before, but is apparently a fully-fleged member of the Alpha-Omega manclasses) over at Red Pill Room, which really freaked me out.  Then I followed the link Ian helpfully included to a Vox post on the same subject, and I freaked out some more.

Why?

Well, as I was reading the post I kept saying 'yeah, I do that' over and over (even in the less 'savory' aspects of the personality type).  I chalked it up to 'Horoscopitis' (where desire to see parallels elicits the illusion of parallels), until I got to Vox's list...

1. Look for the guy who is out in the group, is an obvious part of it, but keeps breaking away from it, especially to pursue women. Sigmas are solitary hunters. They don't need the emotional support from their friends to pursue women, and tend to think that their friends only get in the way.  If you see a group of guys, and one of them seems to periodically vanish and return, he could be their Sigma.
2. Pay particular attention to the guy who locks eyes with you, disappears for a while, then later appears unexpectedly at your side or behind you. Sigmas like to take people off-guard.  The guy who smiles and approaches you directly probably isn't a Sigma.  He is more likely the guy who initially makes you feel slightly alarmed and WTF was THAT?
3. If a man seems to be intentionally trying to turn you off or irritate you, he may be a Sigma.  Sigmas relentlessly test and qualify women in order to categorize them.  Of course, he could simply be a jerk. Or a social incompetent. 
4. Does he cut you away from the crowd? Sigmas aren't herd animals and will always prefer a quiet conversation of two to group banter.  If you're looking for a Sigma and you sense the man with whom you're talking is separating you from everyone else, you may be in luck.  Or he may just be a serial killer.
5. Do others look to him for leadership? And does he provide it or does he shy away from it?  If the latter, you may have struck sigmatic gold.
6. Does he make you feel that if you don't take your pants off, he might just go ahead and do it himself without bothering to ask you?  And do you find it worrisome that somehow, that doesn't seem to upset you the way you know it is supposed to? You may have found the type of introvert you seek.
7. Does he engage you in conversation/flirt with you/have sex with you without even asking your name? Probably Sigma.     

Taken in turn:



When I go out, I ALWAYS leave the group, without fail, within minutes of arrival, and don't return until I have scoped the place out.

I almost always make direct eye contact from a long distance away when interested in a girl (which isn't often), but I will almost always wait for a good opportunity to present itself to just 'be' there all of a sudden, or smoothly inject into the conversation (comment, then ignore until directly addressed).

Most women think of me as outright hostile when they first meet me (and lately, frankly, I have been), and my attitude with women is a lot closer to 'got anything of substance to offer?' than 'fuck me you're hot!'.  And I shit-test women, and for the same reasons they shit test men.  I can't fucking STAND entitlement princesses, and would FAR rather date an agreeable '5' that can fuck, than a prissy 10 with a perfect ass.

Even when I am out in large groups, I tend to engage in 'sub conversations' that are completely unrelated to the rest of the table talk.  I'm OK with group good times....I just find that once you get beyond a core group of people, the rest are window dressing.

I am far more comfortable 'consulting' and working behind the scenes, than I am being a frontman.  I do not like scrutiny at all, and have always thought the man behind the throne had both more actual power, AND more freedom, than the guy sitting on it.  This can bleed over into 'bitchy nit picker' status easily.

I 'assumptive close' sex all the time, which women can find a bit off-putting, but I never 'force' anything.   In fact, I just can't find a better way to put it than this - "Does he make you feel that if you don't take your pants off, he might just go ahead and do it himself without bothering to ask you?" - trust Vox to be irreducibly succinct.

And names?  Oh fuck I can't COUNT the number of times I've been in post-coital bliss with a woman...look over, and actually say "You know, I don't remember your name", and get answered by "That's because you never asked me my name."

I find it actually intimidating/scary to read these articles, because the description of my personality is so accurate.  I've always sort of looked at the Alpha-Beta-Omega crap as similar to the '1-10' scale for women...a rough approximation of tendencies in behaviour.

After today, I'm not so sure I can do that anymore....