You know, sometimes a guy just wants to rip out his (thankfully still full) hair in frustration. The sheer pettiness, the mealy-mouthed petulance, and sometimes outright lunacy displayed in the MRM astounds me.
And I'm a longstanding MRA!
Consider: The On Step Institute sponsers a symposium on Male Studies, an offering of courses intended to reach a better common understanding of issues affecting males, and uniquely male viewpoints. This panel represented some of the most influential, and outspoken, mens advocates in the known Universe (yeah, the whole damn thing)...oh yeah, and one Mens Studies professor that seemed largely to have been there to serve as contrast only..one who stands next to no chance of ever teaching a Male Studies course, I may add.
They spoke about the myriad issues men and boys face in society, and asserted at least some of those issues existed purely BECAUSE they were male, then called for areas of study, research papers, etc.
In short, these guys and gals are serious about addressing these issues, in a male friendly yet academically rigorous manner. They are NOT activists, so much as Academics. And this is the beginning of a long, likely contentious “dialogue” between the sexes. One that Feminists are fearful of, and have done as much as possible to avoid.
One they can no longer avoid.
The reaction from the MRM?
If you can believe it, anger. And mistrust, cynicism, and petulent accusations of not enough being done (the latter typically from people not heard from before a couple of years ago).
And, like the whiny little boys some of these people are, they do nothing themselves, but demand others take the initiative, which they will follow...provided it's done the way HE wants it done, and on his timetable...
The thing is, even this is nothing new. Many of us have been hearing the exact same arguments for literally years on end. Many of us were the people making those same arguments when we first got here too, to be honest.
So as frustrating as it is, even this crap is little more than an annoyance.
What truly frustrates me, is the seeming obtuseness of MRAs when it comes to social dynamics. I can't possibly be the only person who understands this to some extent...the place is full of PUAs for crying out loud!
The MRM has been in existence for years, this much is technically true. In exactly the same way the Feminism never went away between the Suffragettes and the “sudden” explosion of Feminism in the 60's. Do people REALLY think Feminist thought didn't exist before these Feminist authors came out with hundreds of pages of text? In all that time, do people really think Feminism wasn't a bubbling topic of conversation among women, for literally decades?
Feminism simmered away until the right conditions existed, from the ability to communicate and disseminate ideas, through fundraising and latching on to other movements that were similarly simmering away for years until then.
This economic downturn is OUR chance. Do you think people would give a rat's ass about mens issues if there weren't so many men unemployed? Seriously?
The decades of MRA-dom before this served unguessable hours of preparation, honing of ideals, refining of arguments, development of philosophies... There really ARE defining characteristics of being an MRA...did you think they came from nowhere? That they were self evident? That rational, easily understood, smoothly delivered arguments in all these issues just popped out of someone's ass?
The MRM is poised to succeed right now, BECAUSE all of those “ineffectual” MRAs laid so much groundwork, coupled with the inevitable collapse of Feminism itself. If MRAs weren't out there for years already talking this stuff, you can bet you'd be hearing little to anything about men's issues even now.
The MRM has a solid core of ethics and beliefs, one that is based firmly not only on Judeo-Christian beliefs, but also those that formed the original basis for the societies we live in:
Equality under the law, both in word and deed.
Identical legal rights and responsibilities between men and women
The importance of Family, and the rights of both parents as well as children
The list goes on, perhaps better explained in the Mens Manifesto than here.
The point is, we have all these things, a coherent “movement” to present to the public after all the “insignifigant” work done to get us here, so let's bloody well use the opportunity!
Maybe all the "newbs" can show us old guys where we've been "going wrong" all those years...